As a Certified Group Therapist and a member of the Houston Group Psychotherapy Society, Damian creates a supportive environment where every couple can feel safe to share their experiences. You’ll practice new communication and awareness skills and gain insight into your own relationship by listening to other couples’ histories. Average group sizes are between 3 and 5 couples. Group therapy for individuals is also available. Learn more.

Often as a follow-up to a workshop, Damian works directly with individual couples in private sessions. In this safe, structured environment, you’ll gain deeper insight into your relationship and practice the tools and skills you need to create a better relationship together. Coaching via telephone, Skype, or Facebook is also available for long-distance couples.  Learn more.

Most couples start their journey by taking part in the Imago couples workshop, the most powerful and effective relationship education in the world today. In a relaxed and emotionally safe environment, you’ll learn how to develop a conscious relationship and transform struggle into growth and connection. Couples walk away with new relationship tools they can put into practice immediately. Learn more.

  • Relationship Workshop Schedule

    Recapture the bliss and happiness from when you first fell in love with the “Getting the Love You Want” workshop.

    For the vast majority of couples, Damian recommends experiencing the couples workshop before entering couples therapy with any therapist. 

    The workshops presented by Damian are held in Houston and Galveston Island. Workshops specifically designed for LGBT couples are also available.

    Confidentiality is emphasized in order to create a safe environment, and you and your partner will have opportunities to work alone and privately share with one another. Class size is limited to ensure couples get the attention they need. Sign up now to ensure a spot.

    Schedule
    Friday: 6:30 pm – 9:30 pm
    Saturday: 8:30 am – 7:00 pm
    Sunday: 8:30 am – 6:30 pm

    Learn more about the “Getting the Love You Want” workshop.

    Houston

    September 12-14
    October 10-12
    November 7-9
    December 5-7

    Galveston Island

    October 17-19
    November 21-23

     

Houston Relationship Counseling: Forgiveness is Healthy

Wedding Holding Hands at Sunset Houston Relationship Counseling: Forgiveness is Healthy

One of the most common misconceptions about forgiveness is that it’s an act of relieving someone of responsibility for hurting you. The words “I forgive you” take on an almost magical property, suggesting that the hurtful act is in the past and that everything can go back to the way it was before. But that’s not really what forgiveness is about.

Forgiveness is a process that starts with the decision not to hold on to anger or bitterness. When you forgive someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re excusing the hurtful act or pretending that it never happened, it just means that you’re opening yourself up to empathize with the other person and working with that person to move forward.

The Role of Forgiveness in Relationships

Learning to forgive is essential to a healthy relationship. First of all, failure to forgive can lead to one or both people in the relationship bottling up their emotions until the next big fight, at which point anger comes to the surface and one partner uses the other’s past perceived wrongs as leverage to put their significant other down and “win” the argument. Keeping score like this can lead to major relationship issues and make it difficult for partners to communicate effectively.

Another reason that forgiveness is valuable is because it requires partners to actively think about their relationship. When you decide to forgive someone, you have to think about what you are upset about, how the other person is feeling, and the long-term consequences of either forgiving them or withholding forgiveness. It’s not always easy to forgive someone, especially when their words or actions have hurt you deeply, but being able to forgive shows that you’re able to take your partner’s emotions into account and get past the immediate pain in an effort to pursue a more meaningful relationship.

Of course, it’s not always easy to forgive, especially if your partner has betrayed your trust by having an affair. If you want to make your relationship work but find yourself struggling to forgive, consider trying Houston marriage counseling. Learn how to better communicate and begin rebuilding trust with your partner.

 

Houston Marriage Therapy: Too Much Twitter Time?

couple on laptop Houston Marriage Therapy: Too Much Twitter Time?

Do you or your partner make it a habit to Tweet about what you’re doing? Do either of you use your free time to scroll through updates from friends, news sources, and celebrities on Twitter? If so, you may want to talk to your partner about how social media usage is affecting your relationship.

The Pew Research Institute recently conducted a survey of Twitter users who, as a group, used Twitter for an average of 52 minutes a day, five days a week, and found that high usage of the popular social networking site is linked to increased relationship tensions. There are obviously a number of reasons why this may be happening, and it’s clearly not going to be the same for every couple. Some people may feel that their partner’s time on Twitter is taking away time that they could be spending together as a couple, or that their partner gets on Twitter at the most annoying times (such as right before bed). Other people might feel jealous or begin to suspect their partner has lied to them based on their public Twitter updates.

Of course, it’s important to note that not everyone who uses Twitter is going to experience relationship problems as a result, and in many cases, high Twitter usage may be a symptom of a problem rather than a cause. For example, someone who has trouble communicating with their partner might check Twitter over dinner, and someone who distrusts their partner might follow their partner’s Twitter updates to check up on him or her.

Strengthen Your Relationship by Limiting Social Media Time

If you begin to feel that Twitter or another social media site is eating up too much of your partner’s time, or if you believe there’s a deeper problem at the root of your or your partner’s high level of social media usage, sit down and have an honest discussion with your partner about how you feel. Work with your partner to come up with a solution—you may discover that the best thing to do is to just deactivate your Twitter accounts.

If you or your partner aren’t comfortable quitting social media completely, set some boundaries that you can both be comfortable with. For example, maybe you can both put your phones away when you’re eating dinner, getting ready for bed, or on a date together. You might also consider setting time boundaries to limit the amount of time you both spend on social media.

If you feel that too much social media use is a symptom of a larger problem, or if you think that an unwillingness to compromise on social media is an exit to the relationship, consider making an appointment and coming in for a session with Houston marriage therapy. Work with your partner and a trained counselor to build your communication skills and get to the root of the problem so that you can begin to resolve it.

Houston Marriage Counselor: Sometimes All You Have to Do Is Ask

couple looking at ground Houston Marriage Counselor: Sometimes All You Have to Do Is Ask

Feeling hurt that your partner recently failed to understand something that you wanted? Rather than staying mad, take a moment to reflect on whether or not you actually asked your partner for the thing you wanted. As I often emphasize in this blog, your partner is not a mind reader, and miscommunication is one of the biggest sources of relationship issues. To prevent these misunderstandings and find more satisfaction in your relationship, you and your partner should use the following steps to intentionally and clearly ask for what you want.

  1. Banish your fears of rejection. One of the main reasons people often hold back from truly asking for what they want is because they worry that the other person will say no. This can be an especially big concern for someone who worried a lot about rejection from their parents in their childhood and internalized that childhood wound as an adult. To help get past that fear, remind yourself that it’s not wrong to ask, even if your partner does say no or asks for a compromise. You can ask for anything, as long as you’re flexible and understand that your partner is free to say yes or no.

 

  1. Remember that asking is a request, not a demand. You’re requesting something of your partner, not telling them that they have to agree, so make sure that you use the proper tone. Don’t be accusatory (e.g. “Can you help me clean up the house since you’re just sitting around?”) and don’t set an ultimatum (e.g. “You need to get along with my friends or else we can’t be together anymore”). Be respectful and you’re much more likely to get what you ask for.

 

  1. Say what you really mean. Don’t just try to guess what your partner will agree to and adjust your request, or use vague terms that don’t really explain what you want. Be clear and concrete, even if it takes you out of your comfort zone. For example, many couples (even those who have been together for years) struggle to talk about what they want in bed but would have a much more satisfying sexual relationship if they just explained to their partner what they want.

 

  1. Be firm. Pay attention to your inflection when you make your request—don’t let your inflection rise at the end so that it sounds like you’re asking a question, and don’t let your volume drop so that your request fades away. At the same time, don’t let your request sound aggressive. Speak calmly and matter-of-factly.

 

  1. Give your partner a chance to respond. Your partner should listen respectfully while you speak, so return that courtesy by listening to your partner’s thoughts on your request and their own wishes. Once you both understand what the other person wants, you can work together to make sure you meet each other’s wishes or find a reasonable compromise.

If you’re still struggling to ask for what you want after trying these steps, talk to your partner about making an appointment with the Houston marriage counselor or attending a couples workshop in order to work on your communication skills.