Stop Fights by Building in Time

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April
20

Maybe it’s a pointed comment from your partner. It could be a look. Or even a certain tone.

But it just sets you off. You can’t help but respond with a harsh comment.

Your partner does the same. And suddenly, things have escalated into a heated argument.

You both walk away feeling angry, frustrated, confused, and disappointed.

Does that sound familiar? That’s because it is a common pattern for couple interactions, and it is all caused by how our brains are wired to protect us for survival. Read More

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How Your Silence Can Stir Up Relationship Problems

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March
19

For some people, opening up about emotions can be difficult. This is primarily due to socialization in and out of families.

While some associate this issue with males, people of both sexes can suffer from a low ‘emotional IQ’. This means they don’t know the important differences and relationships between emotions and thoughts.

They may even be unable to accurately identify and name their emotions. These individuals may instead use common euphemisms such as, “I feel good” or “I feel bad about this.”

Unfortunately, this difficulty expressing emotions can cause a great deal of pain and frustration for their partners. They may not understand why their partner is silent. They notice their partner struggling emotionally but not putting those feelings into words, and their mind starts racing, “What’s going on? Why is my partner so distant? Did I do something wrong?”

This can put partners at odds with one another – even if the root of that silence had nothing to do with the relationship in the first place. Read More

Is Your People-Pleasing Hurting Your Relationship?

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February
19

Do you find it difficult to say “no” to others? Do you have a hard time speaking up about what you want? Do you avoid sharing contrary opinions?

It’s possible you are engaging in ‘people pleasing’.

That idea may seem like a positive one. After all, an important part of being in a relationship is supporting the other person and making them happy. If you’re engaging in people pleasing behavior, it’s likely you are doing a lot of both!

Unfortunately, you are probably often doing so at the expense of yourself. Continue in this vein and you may eventually lose touch with your own preferences, needs, and desires entirely. Read More

How Your Partner Can Help You Regain Your Lost Self

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January
19

It’s likely you know that your childhood shaped who you are.

Your parents, your culture, and other experiences influenced how you interacted with the world around you. And while many of those influences may have been positive, you still lost parts of yourself in the process.

But it’s possible to regain those lost parts, and your partner is the best person to help you do that. Read More