Many romantic movies teach us a damaging myth when they end with a simple “happily ever after.” They lead us to believe that true romantic love will last forever with no effort.
But the truth is romantic love, otherwise known as infatuation, is a chemical reaction in your brain that can last anywhere from two minutes to two years. And once your brain returns to normal… you may be in for a rude awakening.
You start to notice things about your partner that you didn’t before. Things that will trigger feelings of anxiety and disillusionment.
You might think, “You’ve changed!” This may seem like a logical explanation, but usually those behaviors were there all along. They just didn’t bother you until those “love” brain chemicals went away. Read More
Have you ever had a heated fight with your partner that left you feeling disconnected? When there has been this kind of relationship rupture, sometimes saying “I’m sorry” isn’t enough.
Or maybe you experienced a betrayal where the pain ran so deep it stayed with you for days, weeks, months, or even years? When there has been this kind of relationship rupture, only saying “I’m sorry” is never enough.
Together you need to have an Intentional Dialogue about what happened in order to fully or largely move past the pain. There are six essential elements you should focus on during the repair process of a relationship rupture. Read More
Have you and your partner ever had an argument over seemingly unimportant details?
An argument over whether you wanted the small or large size coffee can turn into a he-said, she-said battle with hurt feelings on both sides.
Is the size of a cup of coffee really the issue? Of course not.
But what is the real issue?
The issue is the style of communication you use when conveying thoughts and feelings to your partner. Arguing over the size of a coffee is a style of “right fighting,” which has deep roots. It’s a problem of process and content, which we’ll unfold here. Read More
Have you ever tried to engage your spouse in morning conversation, only to feel frustrated by their lack of response? Conversely, have you tried to connect with your spouse after work, but felt hurt by their unwillingness to engage?
In both situations, the transition time may have contributed to your marriage problems. Read More