If you are considering relationship or marriage counseling in Houston for the first time, determining what services you want and which counselor to work with can be a challenge. It’s important to take into consideration both objective qualifications of a Houston counselor’s licensing, credentials, and professional training as well as your own gut feeling or comfort level with a counselor.

In addition to academic training, it is important that your Houston counselor continues to look at his or her own issues. What has been and is the counselor’s own journey in both counseling and marriage are very good questions to pose. Continuing to seek ‘consultation’ or ‘supervision’ from an objective counselor, or ‘getting tuneups from their own counselor’ on their personal issues, gives all counselors increased capacity for self-reflection, introspection, and the ability to listen with compassion. Also important, make very sure the counselor is pro-marriage and committed love relationships, and not (subtly or not) supportive of the all-too-common “Divorce is no big deal” school of counseling in Houston.

Houston is full of choices for couples and marriage counseling. Listen to your intuition or gut feeling to the therapist you’re considering. A feeling of rapport and safety between the two of you (us?) is essential for successful therapy. In our initial session, notice how it feels to be with me:

  • Do you feel comfortable?
  • Do I listen?
  • Do you feel that you will be able to trust me?

In couples counseling you can learn to:

  • Process difficult emotions
  • Recognize strengths
  • Overcome trauma and stress
  • Build resources and resilience
  • Work through loss and grief
  • Develop trust in your body and its responses
  • Develop healthy boundaries
  • Resolve conflict
  • Let go of limiting beliefs and thought patterns
  • Manage intense emotions
  • Decrease mood problems
  • Decrease anxiety
  • Learn how to self soothe
  • Balance needs for intimacy and autonomy
  • Achieve greater emotional awareness and depth
  • Learn how to assert yourself in healthy ways
  • Connect to your essential nature
  • Connect to your inner wisdom/knowing
  • Get the marriage or relationship of your dreams

Counseling requires collaboration between counselor and client characterized by a commitment of time and energy, as well as financial resources. You may expect to receive privacy, confidentiality, respect, and an environment of safety and compassion at my Houston office. Generally speaking, my relationship counseling approach with couples is IMAGO. It involves a deep look at underlying issues and, if appropriate, trauma release, with the aim of personal transformation and freer, more conscious and creative living with your spouse.