There are counselors out there who will tell you that divorce is inevitable in some relationships, but the Houston relationship counselor is not one of them. Unless you are in an abusive relationship, I will do everything in my power to keep you and your spouse together, because I believe that we have made divorce so easy in our world that people now see it as a quick way out when things get a little hard.

If this is your mindset and you aren’t willing to change, then no marriage advice I can give you will change things. But if you love your spouse and genuinely wish that things would get better, I have several suggestions – some obvious, some not – about things that you can do to get your relationship back on track.

Get Your Marriage Back On Track with the Houston Relationship Counselor

The best marriage advice I can give you is to use the advice that seems to work for you and ignore the rest. That being said, the following suggestions have worked for countless people to help repair their marriage and strengthen their relationship.

Learn to talk – more, and better. The problems of almost every single couple I’ve worked with at my practice could have been alleviated if they talked more about how they were feeling and worked to listen to where each of them was coming from instead of acting passive aggressive and wishing for a partner that was a mind reader.

Learn to let go – and do it. At some point over the course of a long term relationship, I can guarantee you that each of you is going to say and do mean, selfish, and petty things. We’re all human, and sometimes we make mistakes. But as long as the perpetrator fesses up to their failures and apologizes, you have to forgive them – truly and completely. Holding on to resentment is a recipe for disaster.

Learn to take responsibility – instead of assigning blame. Here’s a hard truth: we can’t fix our partners; we can only fix ourselves. I tell my Houston relationship counselor clients if you dislike something about your relationship, stop blaming your partner (even if it seems like they’re “causing” it), take a step back, and think about what you can do to make things better. Oftentimes when one half of a couple alters their behavior, the other person will change, too. Blaming, on the other hand, usually just invites defensiveness.

Re-learn to love. Too many couples who come to me seeking marriage advice have forgotten how to enjoy their marriage. You decided to be with this person for the rest of your life because you found joy with them – find it again!

If it doesn’t seem like you and your spouse can save your marriage on your own, don’t be afraid to seek out a Houston relationship counselor.