As a Houston, Texas relationship counselor, I’ve seen many couples who struggle to maintain an active sex life, but most people don’t realize how much of a role sleep plays in this. One third of cohabitating adults reported that their romantic relations were negatively effected by sleep problems — such as insomnia, snoring, or just general sleepiness — either their own or their partner’s. New mothers who struggle with low sexual interest have reported that the key cause was being tired. And people with sleep apnea have greater difficulties with sexual function.
Sometimes getting some shuteye just sounds more appealing. After all, sleep is a basic biological need, so it’s not surprising that being exhausted can dampen the mood. But the good news is that by improving your sleeping schedule, you can improve your sex life.
Sleep Tips from a Houston, Texas Relationship Counselor
Bank some sleep in advance. Do you have a busy week coming up? Consider getting some extra sleep the week before. Studies have shown this can help you experience fewer of the negative side effects of sleep deprivation.
Keep the screens out of the bedroom. The artificial light from our laptops and even our TVs can trick our body into thinking it’s daytime, which can suppress the release of melatonin, the hormone linked to sleep. Make it a rule to turn off electronics one hour before bedtime, and curl up with a book instead.
Kick the pets off the bed. Are your dogs or cats waking you up at night? They may be even if you don’t realize it. Find other sleeping arrangements for your canine and feline family members.
Get a better mattress. It may not be just your pets keeping you up at night. When your partner shifts in bed, you may be disturbed. If you’re having issues, consider getting a more stable mattress that moves less when your partner moves.
Work through relationship problems. People who are stressed out get lower quality rest. If relationship problems are on your mind before you go to bed, they may be affecting how soundly you sleep. Consider visiting a Houston, Texas relationship counselor to start improving your relationship.