January 1, 2020 isn’t just the start of a new year. It’s the start of a new decade! This exciting milestone is the perfect time to start fresh, commit to healthy habits, and make goals for upcoming weeks, months, and even years.
We all know the most common New Year’s Resolutions: lose weight, quit smoking, go to the gym, and so on. But have you ever made resolutions for your relationship?
This is a great opportunity to sit down with your partner and plan for the next 10 years together. How do you want to grow? What pieces are missing from the puzzle? How can you prevent repeating the struggles and frustrating situations that may have come up in the past year (or 10!)?
If you’re stuck, here are some suggestions for New Year’s Resolutions that you and your partner can work toward together.
Support Each Other’s Journey
Not all of your resolutions have to be made as partners. But if you know that your partner has specific goals for 2020, support them! Resolve to be their cheerleader and support system as they begin their journey to lose weight, change careers, quit smoking, or whatever.
Get Out Of Your Routine
The same routine of waking up, going to work, and watching TV in the evening doesn’t leave much opportunity for growth and personal development. Resolve to try something new together. It could be anything, from signing up for a cooking class to spicing things up in the bedroom. This exciting adventure could help both of you step out of your comfort zone and see each other in a new way.
We all get in the habit of waiting for our turn to speak. When was the last time you really listened to your partner? When was the last time you heard them and sat with what they told you?
Resolve to listen to your partner more. When they approach you with a problem, put down your phone, turn off your desire to respond, and listen. Repeat what they told you in your mind before you respond. Put yourself in their position and try to feel how they must feel. Then you can respond.
Attend a Couple’s Workshop
Couple’s workshops aren’t just for couples who have “relationship problems” or are “in trouble.” They are a way for all couples to dive deeper into their relationship and reassess their goals. Take a weekend or even a day to sit down with your partner and hear from a professional about how to better understand what your partner needs from your relationship.
Interested in learning more about couples’ workshops? Read more information, including dates and FAQs, here.