My many sessions of marital therapy with couples has taught me that when relationships are new, it’s pretty common for there to be a lot of passion based on sex and physical attraction. Most new couples think this will never fade, but the truth is that it usually does. Our early “fire” for each other is a literal chemical reaction, but over time, the chemicals that cause this are reduced, and we might start to feel like our “love” has gone away. Couples who haven’t taken the time to get to know each other in other ways before this happens tend to experience problems and end up in marital therapy.
Marital Therapy: Find Non-Sexual Ways to Connect
Before you reach that point and need the professional help of Houston marriage counseling or couples workshops, do yourselves a favor and take the time to get to know each other. This may sound like obvious advice, but too often those early throes of passion keep us in the bedroom and prevent us from learning all that much about the person we’re in “love” with.
To avoid having this happen to you, make a point to talk to each other and plan a date or outing at least once or twice a week with the purpose of finding things to do together beyond sex that you both enjoy. Pretty much anything qualifies: cooking, taking a walk, dancing, playing games, watching a movie, going sightseeing – the point is to find non-sexual things to do together that make you happy to be around each other.
The nice thing is that engaging in these activities is in itself a kind of marital therapy as it can often rejuvenate or reinforce those feelings of passion when they do begin to fade from your natural reduction in chemicals.