In my work as the Houston marriage counselor, I’ve come to realize that relationship satisfaction isn’t just about the two people in the relationship. All of us are affected by other areas of our lives, and we bring both our positive and negative feelings back with us to our significant other.

If we have a great day and things go really well, chances are that we’ll be in a good mood and that it will rub off on our partner and make the night together better. Unfortunately, days where we experience anger, loss, or frustration also come home with us, and they can cause fights and make us seek out relationship help.

One of the biggest factors that can impact your level of happiness and satisfaction in your life is your job, so if you’re not feeling good about the place that you work or where you are in your career, working to make it a more positive experience can do wonders for your relationship.

Houston Marriage Counselor: How to Improve Your Work Satisfaction

There are some things that you just can’t change about your work without taking on a lot of risk and greatly altering your life, such as demanding a promotion or quitting and going back to school to start a new career. Other factors, though, you have more control over.

  • Schedule your day. Often, people get frustrated at work because they don’t feel like they can get anything done but frequently this is something they can fix with better planning. Prioritize your tasks each day and do the most important ones first.
  • Get to know your coworkers. Maybe you don’t like the people you work with or feel like you don’t have anything in common, but often people who say that simply haven’t taken the time to get to know the people around them. There are bound to at least be a few with whom you have similarities and, if you can find people to bond with, the work day feels much better.
  • Stop focusing on the bad. Working isn’t fun if you’re always dealing with a troublesome employee or a boss who rides you about every mistake, but dwelling on the negative and complaining just makes you feel worse. Instead, try to keep a positive attitude and focus on the things you can control.

Houston Marriage Counselor: A Happier Day Means a Happier Night

Focus on enjoying your job and you’re more likely to come home in a better mood and enjoy the time you have with your spouse. If you do talk about work, it will be to share jokes and happy anecdotes.

Still having problems? Talk to the Houston marriage counselor.